man. sunday a butterfly died. monday a cat died. tuesday a dog died. ?????
inkskinned, “My father’s recipe for the man I should marry” (via partygirlmeltdown)
This is very, very good advice. You learn more about who someone really is when they are under stress or in an emergency than in a dozen calm years.
Stick him with an infant or toddler for an afternoon.
… spend some time travelling with him - if you can, make it real travelling, that involves not speaking the language and not knowing where you are going to sleep that night . Flirt with other people to see how he reacts. Watch how he treats people other than you - and not just “his” people either, people of all colours and creeds.
You don’t stay in love with someone for ever. People aren’t the same forever. If you can like and respect someone, you will fall in love with them over and over again - as you watch them be a good friend to someone who needs help, as you watch them adapt to parenthood, as you watch them come to grips with getting older.(via jossgraymark)