Annabu Kliewer
South Africa

man. sunday a butterfly died. monday a cat died. tuesday a dog died. ?????

Before you say yes, get him angry. See him scared, see him wanting, see him sick. Stress changes a person. Find out if he drinks and if he does, get him drunk - you’ll learn more about his sober thoughts. Discover his addictions. See if he puts you in front of them. You can’t change people, baby girl. If they are made one way, it doesn’t just wear off. If you hate how he acts when he’s out of it now, you’re going to hate it much worse eight years down the road. You might love him to bits but it doesn’t change that some people just don’t fit.

inkskinned, “My father’s recipe for the man I should marry” (via partygirlmeltdown)

This is very, very good advice.  You learn more about who someone really is when they are under stress or in an emergency than in a dozen calm years.

Stick him with an infant or toddler for an afternoon.

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… spend some time travelling with him - if you can, make it real travelling, that involves not speaking the language and not knowing where you are going to sleep that night .  Flirt with other people to see how he reacts.  Watch how he treats people other than you - and not just “his” people either, people of all colours and creeds.

You don’t stay in love with someone for ever.  People aren’t the same forever.  If you can like and respect someone, you will fall in love with them over and over again - as you watch them be a good friend to someone who needs help, as you watch them adapt to parenthood, as you watch them come to grips with getting older.

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At the end of the day, we can endure much more than we think we can.
Frida Kahlo (via cierrafrances)

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